1. Writing things by hand. Letters to friends, lists for the store, goals for the week, notes for lovers, thank you cards and memos to coworkers. Digital communication is easy and convenient but ask anybody: there's a huge difference between texting someone to say that you love them and hope they have a great day and writing it on a note and leaving it next to their bed.
18 Things Everyone Should Start Making Time For Again November 14, 2013
Holy Days and Selenite November 8, 2013
I know, I know…I said I would write more, after my 40 days, and then I didn’t.
Life…especially when a Pixie owns her own business, has a bit of a commute, volunteers regularly, and prioritizes things that do NOT involve computers…. gets hectic.
These days I am in a wonderful rhythm of waking up early, listening to a podcast, and doodling with my morning coffee. I get on the yoga mat sometime after, and then have a delicious mantra practice that infuses my day with amazing intention and power. I get a green juice in me, get cleaned up, and off I go to serve people with all of Me, all day. It’s wonderful. I am nourished. I am enlivened. I am fulfilled.
A patient asked me last week, why I do what I do. And I told her with utter clarity: “When I am serving people this way, I am in alignment with my Highest Self, and it feels Good.” She nodded, agreeing that this alignment/feeling was the best reason to do anything.
Life is amazing.
I also know (from previous years) that this time of year is one that I generally have some resentment towards. As an Introvert, and lover of Snuggles, I LOOOOOVE autumn and winter, the quiet, the isolation…the heaviness of blankets and the bundling of sweaters. I even am working on Loving the Dark, letting it take me, soothe me, quiet me…so I am in a mode of Reception, and Ease, and Flow, rather than cursing my low energy and desire for naps.
I’m cool with hibernating.
My resentment comes when people start getting dramatic about Holy Days this time of year. Maybe it’s that we have forgotten that they are indeed, Holy? Thanks-Giving, Diwali, Hanukah, Christmas, Kwanza, and (my favorite) Solstice, are times of honoring our loved ones, the energy of Togetherness, meant to nourish and provide communities that are Safe Havens…they are times to acknowledge the abundance of our world, the blessing we live in, the return of the Light, and the depth of the Dark.
Rather than resting in the Peace of those patterns…we commercialize. Gifts are expected, demanded. Meals are planned, re-planned, control is (attempted to be) harnessed, and the result is often that we are so frayed, so stressed, that the one meal or day we are sharing gets lost in too much sugar, alcohol, or emotions run amok.
I vote we change that this year.
As we seek Alignment with Self, Balance in the world, the Holy Day season provides the most wonderful time to steep ourSelves in practice. You needn’t commit the time and energy that I do…simple is always best…rather, it ought to be a practice that connects you with You. Some way that you have of cultivating Sanity, as the seasons change, immune systems deplete, and money flows out in to the world of toys and treasures.
What if, instead of buying into the Giving Mode that so often becomes our default, that we set an Intention to Ground? To Rest? To Receive? To Savor? To Connect?
What feels right for you?
I am not saying that family traditions go out the window, or that we stop giving gifts, or whatever. I love all of those things. I just don’t love the stories we tell ourSelves about getting things perfect, or the stress of last minute shopping (which I have’t done for years, but so many other people DO, that I am affected by their energy nevertheless!). I love holiday music, watching Elf, and all the cookies.
I bet, though, that if I set an Intention now, to carry me through the next 2 months or so, that this would change the season. Maybe I will rest more and eat less. Maybe I will nourish more and find cleaner recipes, and stay cozy under blankets, and appreciate my family and friends…even MORE than I already do.
Oh, and the Selenite bit? It’s a great stone to adopt for your collection. I know we haven’t talked about rocks a lot here…or maybe, ever…but here it is, in an extremely simplistic form: stuff that comes out of the earth heals us. Selenite is a beautiful, delicate white mineral that actually cleans up the energy around it. It’s a clearing stone. It can be used to clear other gems and minerals (you place them on a piece for about 5 minutes), or YOUR AURA! How cool is that???
Simply take a piece and use it like an eraser all around your body. I start at my head, about 12 inches away from me, and work down. There’s no wrong way. I get a cool, tingly sensation over certain areas of my body (which I assume is because there’s stuff getting cleaned up) but nothing uncomfortable. I like showering or meditating afterwards. I keep a piece in my office and cleanse the table and the room after negative energy leaves. I also rest with a piece on my belly and let it clean me that way, too.
It is a wonderful tool to help fuel and re-ground us this time of year. As wind blows, we plan Holy Day gatherings, and make lists of gifts, we need an extra tool or two to get us through.
Blessings, long scarves, and warm apple cider,
- You……Electrified! (kristiabrower.wordpress.com)
- The Kiki Wand (aquarianagethings.wordpress.com)
- Psychic Cleaning For Your Home (thesouladvocate.wordpress.com)
- Top Sacred Seven Angelic Crystals (omtimes.com)
- A Daily Dose of Stones: Protection From Stress and Negativity (crystallinefocus.wordpress.com)
- Rocks, crystals and energy, oh my! (pathwaystoloveandlight.wordpress.com)
- I Luv Selenite! (ajualuv.me)
- Altar of Love (loveismyspirit.wordpress.com)
- Cleansing with Crystals: Selenite (tarotdreamer.wordpress.com)
- A closer look at the connection between Old Testament Holy Days and Jesus (jmdansville.wordpress.com)
Reiki Attunements and Kali’s Love September 24, 2013
So…this past weekend I was attuned to Reiki I and II, and it was, to say the least, humbling. The experience is beautiful, unravelling, perfecting, and cleansing all at once. I felt like I had been hit by a truck, and was completely at peace with that. It was awesome. Literally, and experience full of Awe that I will never forget.
My teacher said that’s what happens when we recognize how Precious we are.
It draws us to our knees.
And of course, I have been dutifully practicing my mantra every day, working with this Face of Divinity that used to really scare me. She’s not so scary these days.
Don’t get me wrong…Kali is formidable, to say the least…there is a whole lot of Power there. All of a sudden, though, her fangs and tongue and kinda-creepy-accessories just aren’t off-putting. They are invitations. They are overpowered by her Love for me. As I work with this mantra…I am drawn In and In, to the heart cave, to dance with Her and, even better, to be Danced by Her. She is the force that reminds me I am strong enough to let things go, to live in a state of Love, to rise above small things that used to take so much energy.
I think She is the Reiki; She laid me down and put me back together. Any face could have done so, but this time is was Her: reminding me that I am indeed, always connected to Source. I have all the power to heal mySelf, and to transmit that if I so choose…within me. It is not separate. There is nothing: no Shadow, no breaking, to fear. Kali is the courage to live fiercely from my heart, ferociously in Love with Life.
This is a passion that our society has somewhat bred out of us…not because it doesn’t serve us, but we have stopped having the attention span to really engage in our Present. How many of us actually know what we want? How many self- help exercises are focused on determining what we want, what we DESIRE, and how we want to feel? A lot. A whole damn lot.
I think on some level, we are afraid to Desire too greatly. A friend of mine once asked me, “How do we get around expectation and desire?” in terms of relationships…and to me…those are not the enemies. The expectation and desire and expressions of strong impulses. They are indications that we are allowing vulnerability, intimacy, trust and expansion to flow. The more strongly we allow ourSelves to desire, the more we recognize that those keys are WITHIN us, not in anything or anyone outside ourSelves.
This goes for relationships, too: expectation is not a bad thing, in and of itself. It expresses and helps define how we fit in each other’s lives. Now, if someone is constantly letting us down, or failing to meet expectation, then we have some sort of disconnect. How perfect! A way to know where we are connected, and where we are not! So the doorway to communication can either open, so that we can work through that disconnect (or choose to let it be! Also valid in some cases!) or, not: and let the relationship develop space there.
Khalil Gibran said, “Let there be space in your love,” or something like that…the basic sentiment being that it’s ok to not match up on every level, in every way we imagine wanting. We cannot be all things to all people, and that is just the way it is.
This knowing, it helps me Love radically, like Kali wants me to. It helps me remember that there will be things and people and situations that simply do not serve me, and therefore, I can cut ties and let them go. No need to make it dramatic, no need to worry over it…it is how things go.
Does this ring true for you? Does this make you want to fall in Love with Kali? And yourSelf? Again and again and again?
Maybe it will just open a door for you.
Integrity Exercises September 21, 2013
I am loving on Chela Davison lately. Her weekly execises are empowering and uplifting, and meaty. This is good stuff. Chela is a life/career coach in Canada, who I heard about through Danielle LaPorte some weeks ago. So fun, how the web works.
Last week’s post was about recognizing where we are out of Integrity with ourSelves. It was just the noticing part, which I love. And this week’s post is what to do with the parts of our lives that we feel need work.
I am sharing last week’s post with you, and then the link to this week’s work is at the bottom, if you want to continue. Integrity is a tricky thing, because we don’t simply arrive in a place of alignment and then that’s it. We are human BEINGS and the being is something that is constantly evolving.
So here is last week’s info on how to take stock of our Integrity:
When we say we’re going to do something, then we don’t do it, if we go about not mentioning anything about it, or re-promising or cleaning it up, it hangs out there, inhabiting our consciousness and eating away at our best intentions. And my best intention is to deliver you a loving and useful practice every week. I didn’t last week. Sorry about that. Now here’s this week’s. Ready?
Practice: Get out some paper and a pen. Break it up into four columns or quadrants or pages and write these headings:
Actions: People: Results: Values:
Then you’ll scan your life and take a look at where your integrity may be out using these sections as prompts. You’ll probably notice some overlap. You can do this in one big exercise, or daily, or working your way through or a combo.
Maybe you do a dump of everything you can immediately think of and then watch over the next week, noticing as life happens, what else you may add to the list.
Next week we’ll do something fun with your findings. Please remember, as you do this, that you be kind to yourself.
Actions: Explore what you’ve been doing that you ‘know you shouldn’t be doing’. Maybe you said you wouldn’t do it, to yourself or another. Maybe it doesn’t make you feel good, is unhealthy for you or is keeping you stuck, limited or miserable. Explore what you’ve said you would do, but haven’t done or haven’t been doing as well as you want to. Explore what habits you engage with regularly that zap your energy or cause pain. Explore what habits you know you want to engage with, that you think about doing, that maybe you even berate yourself for not doing. Go ahead and write all that down. Track it this week.
People: Who have you let down, dropped the ball or been dishonest with? Who’ve you broken a promise to whether they know it or not? Who do you need to step up for and why? Who needs to step up for you? What communication do you need to have and with whom? What agreements are broken or need to be made? What meaning shared or conflict resolved? Who do you need to clean up with, forgive, tell the truth to or have it out with? Who’s not meeting your expectations and who are you failing to satisfy? Go ahead, write it down and track it.
Results: What’s not measuring up? To your standards or the ones you agreed to meet? What’s out of whack with how things turned out and what needs to be tweaked? Where are the loose ends or the inconsistencies in the systems? What’s broken, needs to be replaced, fixed, upgraded? What expectations or plans need to be adjusted? Write it on down and track.
Values: Where are you out of alignment with what matters to you? Where are how you feel inside and what you say or do outside, miles apart? What’s burning in you that’s not getting airtime? What feelings or opinions or truths or experiences need to be processed or expressed? Who is the you who doesn’t get to be you and why not? Write. Track.
And this week’s post, for when you are ready: is here.
An Emergence of Elephants and the Inner Minion September 19, 2013
Since the beginning of my mantra practice, I have noticed things shifting…maybe because I’m looking for it, or maybe because it’s just finally time to let some of this stuff go.
And here is the major confession I am offering: I have a Mr. Hyde streak. I am lovingly calling her Lilith. And Lilith, she has her place in my life: she propels me forward and prevents me from sitting too long in Stagnancy, or anything else that doesn’t serve me, she doesn’t tolerate anything but my best work, and she knows the depths of my power and ability. There is a lot of that in me.
But Lilith also comes out when, say, I get interrupted from working on something that takes my attention inward (like writing a blog post, or crafting, or figuring something out). She comes out when I have a cold-ish shower (yikes, watch out then, that really triggers her) or when I am feeling inconvenienced, uncomfortable, and out of control. She comes out when I DON’T feel powerful.
What’s really interesting is that I came into the world with Lilith. Mo mother shared with me how easily I was set off as a baby, and she never knew what caused it. And there was never any good reason. So let’s expand the view of Lilith into an entity that is lifetimes old, and has some deep power, but I gotta harness her, before she destroys the life I’m trying to build. She’s like Kali in that way: it is only by offering her love, totally being willing to sacrifice ourSelves to her, that her destruction is eased.
And as I acknowledge and move through understanding her, all sorts of elephants have started to parade through my life. It’s amazing. I see them everywhere, I even have a couple of tank tops with big ol’ elephants on them that I am all of a sudden drawn to, like, every darn day. But I can’t wear them every day: people would notice, and I would start to stink. I am also really drawn to black gemstones. I never was before. Ever. But my collection has gone from some piece of black tourmaline (which every single person should own, absolutely) to including black onyx, jet, apache’s tears, black obsidian, and there might be one I’m forgetting. There’s a pile. They all help strengthen and protect and ground the energy INTO the person using them. I stick at least one in my pocket every day. And elephants…well…hello! All about slow, steady working through-ness, about power, and strength, and to me: persistence and wisdom. I love that ele’s show up for me when I am working through my stuff. They aren’t my main power animal, but they are on my totem for sure!
The biggest thing, in working with Lilith, is that she lashes out without warning, but I ALWAYS can feel a change in my body before she does. I need and Inner Alarm…which I am terming my Inner Minion (see the “alarm minion” here) to make me stop what I am about to DO or SAY and re-center in a more peaceful space. I think this could really work. I have watched that clip above about 30 times. I laugh every time. A lot.
And maybe that is also some of the medicine: learning to not take mySelf, or things in my life, so seriously. That is probably a big part of the lesson, too. To have a light heart, and cultivate and Inner Minion. Even when I am seething and angry, giggling can happen.
Maybe Lilith, my ele’s and the Inner Minion can help you, too? I hope so.
Love, ease, and massive blessings
Meditation Techniques September 17, 2013
I know, lately there has been a whole lot of talk here about yoga, mantra, and meditation. It’s where I am, so it’s what I’m writing. It’ll change, I promise!
Below are two awesome techniques that I found over at Elephant Journal, as well as one that I really love to do either while I am getting ready to sleep and can’t, or when I’m in a restorative yoga practice. If you read my previous post, you know that my meditation practice right now is a mantra practice, and these are all separate. I try to meditate or nap each afternoon, depending on what I need or my body wants.
So here are a few tools to add to your box, I hope they inspire you to start a daily practice. It will only bring good to you!
Sit comfortably, or lie down where you won’t be disturbed. Take a few deep, slow breaths, relaxing your body and centering your mind. Start to focus your breath and feel how the breath moves the belly, the lungs, and your shoulders. Feel your heart beating, or simply visualize this beating, and notice that the heart is pulsing not only blood, but light, around your body.
The light begins as quite faint, as you are just beginning to watch it, and its rhythm. Let the heart light start to glow, and grow, as your breathe in and out. Let your body move, if you like, and let the heart light continue to grow.
The heart energy actually pulses out anywhere from 3-10 feet in some individuals, although it can be quite constricted and close to the body when were are heart-broken, or not emotionally or physically healthy. Visualizing the heart light growing will give you a wonderful sense of well-being and peace, as well as helping the vibration of your heart to get stronger!
After you have allowed your heart light to expand and grow to fill the space around you, let it start to condense again, so that you are held in a nice large “egg” of heart light, but it’s not over-extended or stretched too far.
Breathe normally, feeling the sense of peace and ease as your heart light glows healthily and sweetly.
Find your reclined meditation position, making sure your body is not touching anything except the floor. The hands should be away from the body and the legs apart, the feet allowed to fall where they will. Gently close your eyes.
Relax all the muscles in your face. Allow you facial skin to soften and become expressionless. Relax your neck. Relax your chest and your belly. See if your are holding extra tension in your belly. If you are, try to release it on your exhalations. Relax your arms and your hands, your knees and your feet. Scan your body for any residual tension. If you find some, try to release it on your exhalations.
Bring the attention to the breath. Do not alter it in any way, rather feel your chest and belly rise and fall and enjoy the natural rhythm of your breath. Pause here as long as you like, focusing on the breath and allowing tension to melt away. You feel heavy and relaxed, allowing your body to sink into the floor.
Begin to imagine you are floating in the middle of a great ocean. Your body stays afloat with no effort at all, and the water is just the right temperature. It rocks you gently.
Overhead is a great blue sky. See the sky in detail. Does it have clouds in it? How do they look? Are there birds flying overhead or is it empty? What time of day is it? Morning? Afternoon?
As the water rocks you, you feel more and more relaxed, unconcerned about anything in the past or the future. You realize you are not alone. Floating next to you is someone that you love. This may be a real or imagined person, someone dead or alive, a stranger or someone you know. Floating on the other side of you is another person that you love. That person may also be real or imagined, dead or alive, a stranger or someone you know. See these people in great detail.
You feel these two people reach to hold your hands, one on the right and one on the left. You float together effortlessly and silently, enjoying the sensation of ease and connection.
Without lifting your head, you see that the people on either side of you have people on either side of them, holding their hands and gently floating just as you are. You realize that there is an endless chain of people, holding hands and floating in this ocean, and the chain is so long it reaches from one side of the ocean to the other. You are all perfectly calm and perfectly happy, gazing up at the beautiful sky overhead. Pause here are long as you like.
When you are ready, carefully release the hand on the person to the right of you and the person to the left of you. Feel that all the people in the chain are releasing hands, but are still floating peacefully near one another. Slowly, the other people drift a little ways away, but you remain filled with their presence and know that if you just reach out, you can find them again. Pause here as long as you like and enjoy the feeling of being alone, while knowing that at any moment you choose, you can grasp the hand of a friend. Feel the water beneath you and see the sky overhead.
When you are ready, start to bring your attention back to the breath. Begin to deepen your inhales and your exhales. Wiggle your fingers and your toes. Roll over to your right side and rest your head on your arm, soaking in the sensations of the meditation. When you are ready, come up to seated, place the hands together in prayer and give thanks.
Find your meditation position, either lying down in savasana or seated (as described above). Get perfectly comfortable and settle in. Gently close your eyes. Relax all the muscles in your face, allowing the features to soften and the jaw to release. Maybe put a tiny smile on your mouth, a Buddha smile, which is the easiest way to maintain a relaxed and open feeling here. Relax the neck, the chest and the belly, pausing anywhere you feel tension and letting that tension melt away. Move on only when those places feel soft and heavy. Relax the arms and the hands, the knees and the feet. You feel calm and relaxed, becoming softer and heavier with each exhalation.
Bring the attention to the breath. Allow the breath to be natural, and observe it’s journey through your body. Feel the sensation of the air entering and leaving the nostrils. Notice how the chest and belly move with the breath. Anytime your thoughts wander, make a note of the thought without judgement and then return to the breath. You can label the thought with one word like “work”, “family”, “anger”, or “worry” and then just let it go. Do not become concerned if you need to do this many times. Pause here.
Now begin to imagine all the internal systems which make up your body. Your blood, your bones, your organs. Think of them in great detail, all working together to support your physical life. It is a miraculous system. Travel from your brain to your heart to your belly to your groin, finding all the natural power that lies in these places.
Now begin to imagine the cells that make up your body. When we think of organs, bones and blood, they seem to be separate things, yet when we think as all of these things as cells, we see that they are all made of the same material. Go further with this idea. See that all of our cells are composed of molecules, the tiniest building block in the body that we know. Imagine all the molecules of your body working together, spinning in a great complex dance, to support your physical life. You have been given the gift of this multidimensional body which does so much to support you every day.
Now realize the everything in the world is made up of molecules, just as your body is. There is really no difference between your body and the floor beneath it, the walls surrounding it, the people on the other side of the walls, the sun that shines above this room, or anything in the whole wide world. Every single thing is composed of molecules. Pause here to see this in great detail.
Now begin to see that the edges of your body are melting and blending with the floor beneath you. There is no clear line between where you end and the floor begins. See this very clearly. The edges of everything blend into the edges of everything else. There are no sharp corners or delineations. The entire world is simply a mass of molecules, working together in tandem. There is no separation between you and anything else.
Everything is one.
Pause here for as long as you like. Enjoy the feeling of connectedness and ease.
When you are ready, begin to deepen the breath. Wiggle the fingers and the toes and begin to bring awareness back to the body. Remember what you saw and know that it is true.
Everything is one.
When you are ready, gently open your eyes. If seated, place your hands together in prayer and give thanks, noticing that you are filled with positivity. If reclined, roll over and rest your head on your right arm for a few moments. Soak in the good feelings the meditation created. When you are ready, come to seated, place your hands in prayer, and give thanks.